Our children are our future; educating them to connect with their emotions, develop social skills and emotional intelligence is invaluable to their development. Raising our children to reach their highest potential should be our number one priority; I've devoted a chapter on this topic in my book, The Power of Emotion.
THE POWER OF EMOTION | CHAPTER 30 | OVERVIEW
Emotional Intelligence Is The Greatest Gift We Can Give Children
If we want children to thrive, the simple answer is to develop their emotional intelligence. Without question, emotional intelligence is a significant part of their development.
EQ vs IQ
Parents frequently focus on developing their children's intellect rather than their emotional intelligence. How many grew up with their parents constantly telling them to do their homework and get better grades? Perhaps, even suggesting that they won't amount to anything without a good education. I heard that, and many of my friends did as well.
What about the development of their social skills? Making friends and getting along with others was expected, often not taught. Sadly many school districts don't even have emotional intelligence training as part of the curriculum.
Did you know emotional intelligence is known as "the other kind of smart" and the number one predictor of success both personally and professionally? It's time to concentrate on our children's emotional intelligence.
Managing Emotions Can be Difficult for Everyone, Not Just Children
I'm fortunate to have a great deal of experience working with children and developing their emotional intelligence. My career began in Early Childhood Education with a specialization in children with disabilities. There were so many times I observed parents struggling with their children during emotional meltdowns. Sometimes, the children were struggling with their emotions, but more often than not, neither the children nor the parents could manage their emotions. It was never pleasant to watch, and by the time the situation ended, everyone involved was exhausted.
Children are no different than adults; their emotions can be hijacked, triggering them to misbehave. It doesn't take long for children's moods to change, affecting their behaviour, sometimes for no particular reason. When that occurs, they need support to calm down and manage their emotions. For some, something as basic as redirection is all they need. I demonstrate many practical strategies in my new book, The Power of Emotion.
Strategies to Manage Children in Conflict
There is no way children can manage their emotions all of the time. As they gain life experience, they learn to regulate themselves. The more empathetic you are towards your child, the better. Taking time to sit and listen to them to acknowledge their challenge without judging them is a great start. Once a child is calm, you can teach them coping strategies.
Do the following:
- Help your child feel loved and safe
- Speak softly to them to calm them
- Get down to their level
- Focus only on them
- Give eye contact to demonstrate you are listening to them
Don't do this:
- Scold or punish them during their emotional upheaval
- Worry about what other's around you think or say
Managing emotions is challenging for everyone. It's a skill many of us work on regularly. With practice, support and consistency, children will become more experienced in navigating their emotional intelligence.
Nurturing children's intellectual skills is very important, but equally important is their emotional development. Learning to identify their emotional responses, regulate and manage them will undoubtedly help them live a more fulfilling life and make this world a better place. You will find some interesting information regarding this in my book, The Power of Emotion.
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